Your Winners Circle

Being Offended By Others Helping You Is A Sign Of Insecurity

Maybe you have notice that you are around or work with people who are always asking you if you are supposed to be assisting them or are THEY not supposed to be heading up a particular project.  They are always questioning why you are doing something and implying that you are stepping on their toes or over stepping their authority.  Sometimes you may just be lending a hand till the appropriate person shows up to take over to complete the task.

Maybe you were sent to help another person and that particular person asks why you of all people were sent or asked to assist.  This is a form of insecurity and can cripple you in relationships either personal or in the workplace.  Sometimes it comes from someone who is your equal in position and sometimes it can even come from a supervisor. Their indication is that you are trying to take their job or are stepping on their toes and implying that they can not do their job effectively or efficiently. Most of the time this is not the case and is a matter of honest and sincerely assistance.  Are you one of these people?

Confidence in yourself and the courage to receive assistance is the sign of a great leader. This person can not only deligate task but can accept assistance when others are willing with grace and ease.  There is no need to be threatened  when you empower those around you to be a part of the overall project.  If someone rises above the task given to them, that is an indication that you are also an outstanding teacher as well as a leader.  It is an honor to have other model after you and your princilples.  Be a role model is one of the greatest compliments that your peers can bless you with.

So when you get the inclination to be offended when others attempt to assist or take the initiative to take on a task without being told, pause and empower those individuals to continue to rise to the occasion and the next level. And when they do they are a reflection of the one who taught them along their journey.  Appreciate their efforts and determination to succeed and all of you will be winners at days end.

Sometimes You Have To Clean Up Your Own House First

This weekend I had the opportunity of not only meeting but working hand in hand with an amazing woman who has an enonormous heart and is a winner in her own right.  She is a wife, a mother, a speaker, and an author.  Her name is Loren Slocum and I met her at the Author 101 Seminar held in Las Vegas, Nevada as she shared with the attendees her story and the principles she trains on.

She expresses that many of us make it so hard for us to win by focusing on the not so great things that are in our lives instead of that which is great.  Loren does not believe that a person needs a whole life make over, all a person needs is "just a little tweeking here and there". This is the name of her newest book "Life Tuneups".  She remind people that the most important thing a person can do is to take care of themselves first.  You cannot give what you do not have.

Another thing that is covered in her book is how important it is to create a compelling vision for yourself.  This is not new andis taught by may leaders in the personal development industry.  She tells you to ask yourself, "Who do I have to become to be the person who is healthy and alive".  Use your vision board to constantly remind yourself of what is working great in your life. And always stay true to who you are. 

Her story is outstanding and she believes that sometimes you just have to redicover who you are and what you really stand for.  It was a gentle reminder that I too need to stay tuned and tuned up to give back to the world all that I have to offer.